Begin within
A new science of care
From Self-CaretoWe-Care
The New Science of Mindful Boundaries and Caring from an Undivided Heart
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Paperback · Ebook · 288 pages
“A carefully curated survey of scientific studies and inspiring stories about how we can live into the notion of what he calls we-care.”
Self or other?
∞Care was never meant to be divided.
We are often told to choose between protecting our own well-being or being there for others. But this is a false divide.
From Self-Care to We-Care reframes care as a social force, one that can replenish the self, strengthen relationships, and deepen our responsiveness to the world around us.
Drawing on neuroscience, contemplative practice, personal stories, and practical exercises, Jordan Quaglia offers a more balanced way to express our innate capacity for compassion.
The We-Care Continuum
Care can move without abandoning either side.
Hold the whole
We-Care
Move beyond either-or toward care that includes self, other, and world.Reach beyond
Other-Care
Offer care with discernment, without overextending or losing yourself.What you’ll discover
A practical path from burnout to belonging.
Guided inquiries, social exercises, and accessible science help you see your own patterns of care and practice a wiser, more connected alternative.
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Recognize your care tendencies and the situations that pull them out of balance.
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Set mindful boundaries that are responsive rather than rigid or reactive.
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Work with empathy and overwhelm without shutting down or taking over.
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Practice we-care across your health, relationships, work, and community.
Published by Shambhala · May 2025
A science-backed framework for healthy boundaries, compassion, and care that includes us all.
288 pages · Shambhala PublicationsPraise for the book
Words from readers, teachers, and fellow explorers.
“If you’ve ever felt the quiet tug of war between caring for yourself and caring for others, this book offers a profound and timely recalibration. With the clarity of a scientist and the heart of a fellow traveler, Jordan Quaglia weaves together research and lived experience to offer accessible, evidence-informed practices to replenish and sustain us. From Self-Care to We-Care reminds us that tending to our own well-being isn’t separate from caring for others. It’s what makes it possible to show up fully, wisely, and wholeheartedly.
“From Self-Care to We-Care challenges our fundamental assumptions about the relationship between self-care and caring for others. By weaving together research, personal insights, and practical wisdom, this groundbreaking book offers readers powerful tools for transforming their relationships and approach to care. Essential reading for anyone seeking deeper understanding of human connection and the nature of human flourishing.”
“Combining neuroscience and contemplative practice, Jordan Quaglia offers quantitative backing for the felt experience of our interconnected nature—compassion and care become far more potent when they are extended not only to ourselves but to a broader circle of ‘we.’”
“In this powerful book, Jordan Quaglia provides a carefully curated survey of scientific studies and inspiring stories about how we can live into the notion of what he calls we-care…With gratitude for this deep and timely inspiration, we can thank our courageous and insightful guide for this illuminating and empowering gift.”
“Marked by insight and a gentle, curious, multilayered approach…the book invites investigating with deep critical thought and a compassionate heart.”
Included with your purchase
A companion for putting we-care into practice.
The Reverse Practice Series introduces three perspective-shifting practices: Reverse Self-Care, Reverse Other-Care, and Appreciating We-Care. Read it on its own or use it to deepen your experience of the book.
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